Enjoy life

It's amazing to watch the sun set at 9.15 pm. I am in the capital city of the empire where the sun never used to set. Those halycon days are over, so the sun does set, even though at a much later hour than what I am used to. In India the sun sets around 6.30 in the evening.

The evenings are so pleasant here, and the parks are full of people, some walking, some running and some out with their children. Yesterday there was an elderly couple at the park with their children. It was really nice to watch the parents enjoy themselves on the slides as well as the swings. Its seldom that older people let go of their inhibitions and get in the spirit of childhood.

I saw a show of Charlie & Lola at the Polka Theatre in Wimbledon today with my grand children. It was really an interesting experience. I, who used to be so serious, immersed all the time in my work, planning the strategies and the actions that were to be taken the next day, enjoying children's theatre!!! Working in a Bank and managing a branch is a tough job. I always was thinking of ways to get the people to work and also to be more involved and interested in their work. Meeting my budgets and making profit for the bank was my life's ambition. Today, my biggest challenges are to manage my grandkids and to make sure that there are no tears, or at least as few as is possible. Life seems to have suddenly taken a turn and I seem to be living life and enjoying my everyday.

It doesn't feel like drudgery. My next day doesnt seem like a challenge. I dont have to keep firefighting all the time!!!

Yes, life can be like that too.

Happy, carefree, simple and beautiful.

I saw Mamma Mia-another feel good movie. Made me feel really good to be at the age where I am. If I want, I can really live my life with happiness. Its all in my mind, how I live and make the most of everything. Nobody's life is perfect, yet one can either cry or laugh at the situation. We can either look at the spilt milk and mourn the loss or simply clean the mess and move on. Only a lesson can be learnt, so that the milk doesn't spill again.

Marriage and happiness

There is so much of pain, misery and sorrow in this world. However hard one may try to remain out of the orbit of these, it is not possible to escape this distress.

We are so bound by our beliefs, our perceptions, our dogmatic views and thoughts of right and wrong, that we are bound in chains all the time.

Take the case of marriages for instance. Marriages in India they say are for keeps. I wonder why it is so. Marriage is only a social contract between two people. They take a lot of vows, make a lot of promises and take on a lot of responsibilities to make the marriage work. However, for any reason if the adjustments that are needed to be made are inadequate, or there is lack of trust, or cruelty of any kind by any one person, then there is bound to be a lot of unhappiness in the lives of the married couple. Yet, one sees that there are so many unhappy marriages, where people remain married for the sake of the children or fear of society, or fear of the future. Whenever one feels stifled and unhappy in any binding then it is the right time to think of obtaining freedom. Freedom does open up a lot of vistas and gives us scope to think of other things which may be more conducive to provide happiness.

The pursuit of happiness, stability in life and peace of mind is essential for the growth of the human mind. If there is no unhappiness prevalent all the time, a person gets the time to pursue various other things needed for personal growth. Staying in an unhappy relationship and trying every moment of your life to make adjustments so as to buy peace for some time is rather a sad pursuit which only wastes time, as, in the end one just does not gain anything. All that time, energy and resource spent for mending broken fences becomes an exercise in futility.

It is time one took stock of the situation. There should be no reason to deceive oneself, and the world. It is time to take positive action, to assess the worthiness of a relationship and after taking stock of the situation, one should decide if remaining unhappy and keeping a face for the world is better or remaining honest with your ownself and the world is a better option .