Atrocities
against women have been happening forever. It is only now that we are
hearing about it. A woman is a woman, she could be a one year old or
an eighty year old. To perverts she is just a sex object.
Human
beings in my opinion are the worst species of creatures in the world.
They have hands and brains which they use to abuse other human
beings.
Since
rape is being talked about quite openly now, we keep reading and
hearing about little children being raped, brutalized, bitten,
mutilated and even killed. For every rape case that comes out in the
open there would be hundreds which never see the light of the day.
Many
are hidden, not reported or not registered. Just like in the Gudiya
case, obviously the police wanted to shut the case by offering a
bribe and making the parents of the little child keep quiet. How many
people would have the courage to face the police and insist upon the
case being registered?
I
wonder why we in India worship the Goddess? Why do we worship Shakti,
Durga, and so many other deities? Why do we hurt, molest, insult all
those innocent girls who have to suffer simply because they are
girls? Even little boys are targets of such molestation. Are we
perverts? Has all sense of propriety, decency, human dignity,
vanished?
In
spite of feeling totally dejected and sad by what is happening all
over the country, I still feel proud that there are
activists and general public who are protesting against these
atrocities. They are making a hue and cry and are raising their
voice. It is only when the public raises its voice, that juggernauts
come to a halt. As long as we keep tolerating injustice, atrocities
and pervert acts against women, we will remain a soft target. Every
one will side track the issue and it will become stale news. The need
is to keep the issue alive and remain in the news.
Everyone
needs to be sensitized. People cannot be making non sensical
statements saying, "rapes are happening everywhere and forever,
there is nothing new in this." Does that make it justified?
Should people not awake to this barbarity? Should people not revolt?
Should we just keep sitting inside protected environment and say "so
what"?
These
are vulnerable little children, young girls, women who are part of
our society. They are not objects.We need to keep raising our voice.
I
am extremely pained to see the amount of suffering a girl has to
undergo. I am appalled to read about fathers raping their own
daughters. What can these girls do? A father is the most trusted
person in any child's life. It is such a pity that people have lost
all senses.
What
is the solution , how can women be protected? What can be done to
prevent such occurrences? My mind is in a turmoil and I am wondering.
Should girls and little boys not be allowed to play outside their
homes? Should they be watched by someone all the time? Should they be
made prisoners?
Even if we watch over them all the time at home, what
about teachers, ward boys, Doctors molesting vulnerable students,
patients?
I
think it is not about protecting our women and children, it is about making the
place safe for our women and children, so that they can play and walk
on the streets alone without chaperones.
The
mind of people needs to be changed to bring about a see change
in attitudes? No amount of protective armor can make a woman safe. It
is the minds of people that has to be changed. Thoughts need to be
changed. Attitudes need to be changed. Treating women as objects for
titilation needs to be changed.
17 comments:
Very well expressed. On one side, females are worshipped and on the other side she is not safe even in the womb. She has to suffer atrocities at the hands of men whether it is post natal killing or molestation or rape. Imagine even a 80 years old woman being raped by a 23 year old man....news on the same page. Our religion also is full of such stances but writing about them will be quite unpalatable to most.
Varsha, questions are well put, but the solution beats me. i simply cannot understand Paedophilia at all.boys here are as much at risk as girls and like you say most gets unreported. Fathers, brothers, molesting children and siblings is on the rise, and we see many passive mothers too.
I feel we should end this human race and start again
Bal Gupta said"The social fact is that crores of Indian males suffer from mental disorders and obsessions of the type which lead to all sort of despicable and heinous crimes against females of all ages.
There is no social system whereby men/ boys showing criminal tendencies against women can be identified and treated before they commit crimes.
Actual level of such crimes may be ten or even hundred fold. But most such cases are suppressed and not registered in Police Stations.
Tendency is more in ppl living in inhuman conditions in slums away from their native places and having little social interaction or education. NGOs have to spread out in such areas and counsel the people to take proper care of women in such areas and to report any suspicious youth to the police. May be folms also need to show women in better light and shun those items numbers of Sheila, Munni and Chameli in future!
Anil Saxena said," Varsha ji , issue taken very well to make us wonder what magic band we can use to change the mindset of such sex maniacs & the law enforcing people who seem to be hand in gloves with them, insensitive, inhuman & shame less people."
" Anil Saxena I do not want to leave everything to govt.,etc. I wish people would demand a change in society. Each one of us can be a catalyst.we change education pattern, we lead by example, we create awareness. Let us not only get angry and vent our anger. Let us think and try to find out what is the malady & what can be done. Blaming politicians for everything will get us nowhere."
Anil Saxena said,"You are right, it has to start from each home, inculcating values & respect for women, be it mother, wife , sister ,daughter & other women on road. An organised effort thru some genuine social workers is required to imbibe these values in rural, illiterate & poverty stricken people n urban areas where the woman is still not being respected even in their households.The schools can play an important role in inculcating right values & also keeping a watchful eye on errant students to check them at budding stage."
Nina Rai Singh said," very true."
Sangeeta Florence Sebastian said," 100% with you, Varsha.
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Very sad. I have to agree to what you said about the human race. I do not think that sexually deviant behaviour is present in any other species. It is the brain/mind that the human is endowed with and which asserts his superiority over the others that is also the seat of all perverse fantasies and the source of all that is base in our being. How many more have been mentally raped? We are all collectively responsible to ensure that this society is rid of this sickness. So where do we start, can we think of a role for ourselves individually and to go ahead and put it in action. We have said a lot, can we now do it?
Umesh Sharma said,"Ms Varsha ji..very well authored, a balanced view of our times. Thanks for enlightment.I am clueless in so far as corrective measures are concerned. Each one of us has a duty & role in educating our wards. We cannt eacape from our responsibilities. But there is one thing which is a point in way wardness of our childern ie Poor Parenting. I confess, am not as good Father as my father was !! Its 'confession time'...let me make one for confession. I always loved being naughty and all the ingrdients present even in those to let lose. Many of my friends did certain things which was not acceptable in those days, but I did not . Reason is not difficult to find...Over whelhming presence of my Father in my pshcy !
Lets play our role to make our daughters safe. Its not too late even now.
Thanks"
Anil Saxena said," Umesh Sharma ji you extremely right, When we grew up we were subject to very strict & disciplined parenting. Father's presence & Questioning was a policing factor in households, But today in most houses in order to be more friendly with their children that discipline & respectful fear of being questioned is missing, loosing control on children at that adolescence stage. Even in schools the teacher - student relationship is not of that respect & discipline, which used to be in our times. Sanskar bachcho mei parents & school se hi miltey hain. Difference between good & bad is not being taught in schools these days."
GS Subbu,
Thank you very much for your comments. I have been thinking about what we can do to curb this growing menace against women and children. I feel that in older times the concept of neighbourhood was quite different. Everyone knew everyone, people met and watched over each other.Strangers, new faces,were all noticed. People cared, bothered and were vigilant about their neighborhood.Perhaps we need to start that way of living once again. We need to be watchful. These problem are more rampant in another class of society where parents go out to work leaving children unattended. Perhaps we can try to teach our own domestic employees about the vulnerability of children. We can find out about their arrangements and also the conditions in their neighborhood.If possible we can try to arrange creche or safe places where children of slum dwellers can be looked after. We need to teach children not to go with people who offer them chocolates and ice creams etc. Basically we need to be aware, vigilant, watchful, caring of our neighborhood as well as of those with whom we come in contact. Our maid, vegetable vendor, paperwallah, etc etc.Tenants must never be kept without police verification.
Chaitali Nagpal Hireker said,"Good practical ideas. I like the idea of crèches etc for low income groups. @pankaj varma, the building of societies and changing mind sets takes time, while people work on cultural changes, small measurable actions start making an immediate impact. Children at very early ages must also be taught about what is good/bad. This all starts with educating them at home. If our domestic helpers and other employees can't teach, then the employers / area reps / housing associations should talk to these children about it."
Umesh Sharma said,"Varsha ji, you are right. the another factor is feeling of 'neglect/deprivation at their costs' and 'yearning for revenge' which culminates in such acts. As a student of class VII th, I first visited Delhi and after seeing the cheap transport etc I too had this feeling that Delhi does nothing and growing rather enjoying at our cost.Until such time,I shared this feeling with my father (a college Principal and did his Ph.D in Geog in 61 )I who did 'cource correction' for me. I feel if such timely counselling is afforded to young, things could take a sweter turn !"
Nina Rai Singh said,"very true."
Sangeeta Florence Sebastian said,"100% with you, Varsha"
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